You may find that your loved one's mourners disagree about how the remains should be handled after cremation. While some people want a traditional service with a casket in a funeral home, others may prefer to celebrate the life of your loved one with a party before spreading the ashes in a place that is special to them. Hosting two separate services is an excellent way to accommodate mourners' wishes after your loved one is cremated. Here's how you can make it happen:
Host Two Separate Services
To accommodate the preferences of as many mourners as possible, consider hosting two separate funeral services for your loved one. One service should take place in a funeral home and the other should be held in a park or outdoor location that was special to your loved one. In the funeral home, place your loved one's urn in a casket and ask the director to facilitate the funeral as usual. Decorate the funeral with your loved one's favorite flowers and framed photos of special memories throughout the lives. Give mourners an opportunity to leave flowers on the casket and to spend a little time speaking about the deceased if they feel the need.
Prepare the second service by creating a memorial table at the service location to use as a centerpiece and placing the urn on top of it. Surround the urn with photos, candles, flowers, and special belongings of the deceased that will remind mourners of his or her time on earth. Plan a playlist of your loved one's favorite songs that can be played at the service, and ask each guest to bring along a dish to share with everyone else. Because you're celebrating the life of your loved one at this service, give the space an upbeat look and feel by decorating with streamers and balloons.
It's a good idea to invite mourners to both services so they feel free to attend either one or both depending on their personal preferences and feelings at the time that the services are taking place. To gauge how many people you can expect to show up at each service, ask invited guests to R.S.V.P. separately to each one. Set up a free email account for each funeral service where guests can send an email with their R.S.V.P. Information and you can easily keep track of the information.
Hosting two funeral services for your loved one should make it easy for mourners to commemorate the deceased's life in a way that makes them feel good.
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